1. Communication
 Communicate your needs positively& politely.

2. Courage 
 Forgive mistakes, have the courage to say "I'm sorry" first.

3. Contentment
 Share your contentment and gratitude for what    you have together. 
 
4. Consideration
 Always be kind and considerate of your partner’s feelings. 

5. Collaboration
 Collaborate together to form a stronger bond and create lasting memories.

6. Curiosity
 Show curiosity in your partner's daily life, goals, and dreams.

7. Compliments 
Compliments are the bedrock of romance so give them daily.

8. Commitment 
Build trust by reviewing and renewing your commitment together.

9. Contribution 
Find as many ways as you can to contribute to each others lives.

10. Celebration
Celebrate your love and life by laughing everyday.

Let me start off by saying , I am not oking the fact to have an affair in this blog, and YES an Affair is something to be taken very seriously and we should never settle to be with a partner who constantly cheats. But I also feel we are all human and by no where near perfect. We get caught up , by the flesh, temptation , greed , lack of communication and anger sometimes.
 I feel that being in a great lasting relationship has to include full understanding that we are not perfect , we are bond to make mistakes sometimes. Whats important is a partner who recognizes there/your mistakes , learns from, and wants to move forward .
I met this beautiful couple while I was living in Tampa , and I feel blessed to have met them. They were in there mid 40's and have been married since they were 20 ..... this couple still had so much passion, I was just in shock to see them still flirt with eachother, her sitting in his
lap , him caressing her hair , I even caught him glazing at her as if  she was the most beautiful women he's ever seen. It was  beautiful!
After 20 years... still that playfulness. It was just amazing!
I just had to ask them whats there secret ??? It's , Understanding each other , being realistic, forgiving.
You see they have a complete understanding of what it means to understand and except that we are always working to be better people because we are not perfect.
Therefore if the person we love makes a mistake , we have to learn to be forgiving and move on.
So, If the relationship is worth fighting for...
You and Your Sex Life Can Survive an
Affair. Whether its an emotional affair with somebody that your partner has been talking to on the phone , on the Internet or weather its a physical  sexual affair that they have had once or even more. Sometimes having an affair is
actually a light going off that something is imbalanced in the relationship. It could be the best wake up call you ever had. Hard to believe  but yes it can. Sometimes an affair can come from your partner feeling judged  and
I'm not saying its your fault but maybe there not feeling safe enough to talk to you about what there real needs are. So if you or your partner have had an affair and you realize that you truly love them and you wanna heal the relationship. Step # 1
you need to tell  them  why you had the affair, without blaming them I felt neglected, I felt like I couldn't share my fantasies with you, I felt
judged, or maybe even I felt like I needed variety.
Be honest  because  your partner already knows and then tell them but I love you and  I want this  relationship  to work and I'm willing to do anything, anything! it takes to heal,  so that you trust me again.
Then you talk about what it takes...
There are 5 ingredients that you need to get back into that relationship...
Friendship , you guys need to be the best friends again, so u can relay on each other.

Trust, they need to trust you again or you need to trust them again.


Respect, you can lose respect in a relationship

Communication, open honest communication.

Passion, Yes! the passion can be rekindled,  as long as you both have the desire, your willing to forgive and move forward an affair does not necessarily mean the end of a relationship.
Live, Learn, Forgive, and Love =)  ...

Many couples face obstacles that tear them apart physically, and slowly the passion dies down as well. Love isn't easy, you must always work on keeping it alive and the same goes for 
the passion, for once one goes there could be no turning back if one feels rejected or resentment.
If your love is worth saving, do all you can to bring the passion back and kick the old routine to the curb. Spice up your love life a bit. Go on dates often and never forget to appreciate each other.
Keeping chemistry alive is very important!  
Everyone knows that after a while the passion you began your relationship with dies down, but the attraction and chemistry shall always remain.  Without chemistry the relationship will quickly turn into nothing more than a friendship. When that happens the passion will inevitably die, the relationship becomes hollow and both of you will look elsewhere for fun.  
 It doesn’t matter if you’ve been with this person months, years or decades if you want a healthy relationship you must never let the romance die by becoming lazy.  You have to keep it going.  Have a candlelight dinner.  Go for a walk or
gaze at the stars and moon together.  Never forget to compliment your partner, and if people are around when you do even better.  Hug and kiss your partner when they arrive home and leave.  Send your partner a nice message via text, email or by leaving a post it on the mirror or refrigerator.  Have a picnic alone, flirt with your partner and be playful.  Help out by doing your partners chores for them and then taking the free time to give each other massages or snuggle, and most importantly take time once a week to spend time with your partner and have
fun.
Settling into a routine too quickly can also damage the relationship so try not to fall into this trap, no matter what, as we all tend to get relaxed and forget how boring this can be.  Change up a few things here and there to keep things interesting.  Don’t go to the same restaurants, or places.  Keep things as interesting and adventurous as it was when you first hooked up, and keep the sex life just as interesting by role playing, changing up positions and even where the deed is done.  You get the idea. Keep things exciting and you will never find yourselves off each other, but
keep things the same all the time and eventually the chemistry will be lost and
the relationship will die.
Don’t take your partner for granted, keep those surprises coming, it will surely keep you and your partner satisfied with each other, and most
importantly together =)



 

 Friendship: If you cannot rely on the person you love, then that person is not worthy of your love.  And if your partner should be able to count on you as well.  Over all you should be able to have a Friendship, meaning  being able to say anything to your partner because you have that  ease.

Trust: I am fond of the old  saying "People who cannot trust should not be trusted."  Distrusting people are  often deceitful because of there trust issues. I found this to be a reliable measuring stick on the trust issue but it is still very important to give people  the benefit of the doubt. Unless they prove otherwise.  
You  cannot truly be connected to someone you cannot trust. That warm, mellow feeling  we experience when we trust each other is a Huge part of a True Love.   Peace-of-mind in a relationship is vital to its stamina.  And trust, like  anything worthwhile, is something we earn over time, 
 
Respect: First and foremost, you must respect yourself before someone else will respect you.
  Respect can diminish over time, especially when you  say or do hurtful things to each other. Whether it is verbal, emotional, or physical abuse, it will kill any respect And lack of respect is one of the most common reasons for ending a relationship.

 Passion: That  feeling of pure lust, overwhelming, distracting, beautiful thing we call  passion.
Passion grows when you can be comfortable  with each
other And  you break down any barriers by communicating. Passion fades when you have  resentment, anger, or contempt for your partner.  This is an area that cannot be  neglected or taken for granted in a relationship.  Keep it alive by kissing  everyday, recreate passionate memories and try new and exciting activities together.

Communication: You cannot feel good in a relationship without communication.  You have to know where you stand, and you owe it to your partner to tell him or her the same.  Knowing each other is the Key to happiness in all areas. This includes sex too!  Let your partner know  it is safe to talk about fantasies and to explore them.  Good communication can  unleash strong creative energy between you and your partner And with good  communication, you can talk about anything. Not only does it enhance your relationship, it takes a big chunk out of everyday stress. Compliment your  partner every single day; let him or her know that they are making a  difference to your life and share your wants, needs, desires, and fears because  nobody can read your mind, not even the one you love!